Don't Let Anyone Stop You From Enjoying Your Wedding
- Andy Anthony
- May 1
- 3 min read
How's your wedding planning going? Do you feel stuck between what you want and what you feel like you're supposed to want? Let me jump in and give you a little pat on the back: you're allowed to make your wedding whatever you want it to be! C'mon, here's a brief discussion on making your wedding feel authentically yours and ensure you don't let anyone stop you from enjoying your wedding.
There's a trend on social media where no matter what someone posts about their wedding, they get negative comments. Have something simple and typical? "Boo, so boring!" Have something out there and authentic? "Boo, so cringe!" Cut it out, commenters! Time to let people live their best lives however they want!
That's why my first bit of advice is to start ignoring other people, especially strangers on the internet. The only wrong choices for your wedding plan are going to be the logistical ones, the ones that as a planner I'd have to walk you back from like, "No, better not invite that many people since the venue you locked in has a hard limit," or "No, you legally can't bring your cat to a skydiving wedding ceremony." However, I'm all for working with you to find creative ways to still celebrate how you want.
My next bit of advice is to lean into what makes you happy. For some people, it really is the traditional wedding tropes. Classic music walking to the altar, classic wedding dress, classic flowers and cake, and Baby Got Back during the reception. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to make a wedding that looks like all the pop culture depictions of a wedding since if that's what you always dreamed it would be and really like that idea, then you deserve to have that dream come true!
In the same way, getting creative and wild is nothing to scoff at either. There's no law preventing you from having your wedding venue at a public pool (though you do need to secure it with the facilities just like with any venue). If you've always imagined being Santa Claus getting married at the North Pole, that sounds like some fun, I'm sure I have some connections in the snow and reindeer department if I check my rolodex hard enough.
My point is to let yourself want what you want. Your mom isn't the one getting married here, you are, so you're not required to pass everything through her approval check first. Listen to what you want and discuss it with your partner, and whatever you two are cool with (and that's legal and all that), I'm totally cool with it too, and I want to help make it happen as close to your ideal as possible.
That said, what actually makes a wedding authentically yours? This one I can't answer for you, but I can help get you create a vision. Something a good wedding planner does is listen and advise, helping you put pieces together to create a party you're excited to attend. I like to ask about the must-have elements to your ideal wedding and walk you through what it would look like to bring all those pieces together, and then give you a chance to add and build until we have something special.
Need that first planning session? Let's talk! I've love to get to know you and what makes you and your partner so great!
Happy Wedding Planning,
Andy <3